In-Person

Eldest Daughter Support Group

For the ones who always held it together.

You were the responsible one. The caregiver. The fixer.

You held space for your family, carried expectations, and juggled the unspoken burdens of being the eldest daughter. But who holds space for you?

You Deserve to Exhale

Imagine a space where you don’t have to be strong all the time. A place where you can lay down the weight you’ve carried for years and finally breathe. This support group isn’t about adding more to your plate—it’s about lightening the load.

For the daughters who carry everything.

You Take Care of Everyone—But Who Takes Care of You?

From childhood, you learned to be responsible. Before you even understood the weight of it, you were the one who made sense of chaos, who solved problems before they became crises, who felt pressure to be perfect because there was no room for error.

  • You weren’t just an older sibling—you were a bonus parent. You helped raise younger siblings, took on emotional labor beyond your years, and stepped in when the adults couldn’t.

  • You became the emotional backbone of your family. You listened, soothed, and managed conflict, even when no one asked how you were doing.

  • You carried the weight of cultural expectations. While your peers navigated childhood freely, you balanced your family’s traditions with the demands of a world that expected you to be independent.

  • You learned to perform perfection. High standards became survival. There was no space to fail, to fall apart, to simply be.

But now, you’re exhausted.
And you’re wondering:

what about me?

Maybe you:

  • Feel guilty setting boundaries, even when you’re overwhelmed.

  • Struggle with perfectionism, anxiety, and the fear of disappointing others.

  • Have difficulty asking for help or receiving care because it feels unnatural.

  • Carry resentment—toward parents, siblings, even yourself—because of all you were expected to be.

  • Feel trapped between two cultures, always negotiating between duty and your own desires.

You’re not alone. The patterns you’re stuck in didn’t start with you—but they can end with you.

This Space is for You If…

You’ve spent your whole life being the ‘strong one.’ And now you’re wondering: when do I get to be soft?

You crave relief from the pressure of always being ‘good enough.’ The high expectations, the fear of letting people down—it’s exhausting.

You want to break cycles, but you don’t know how. You love your family, but you also want a life that belongs to you.

You need a space where you don’t have to explain yourself. Because here, we already understand.

What You’ll Experience Here

Conversations that heal.
A safe space to unpack the weight you’ve carried for so long.

Cultural & generational insights.
We explore why these expectations exist and how they’ve shaped you.

Practical tools for boundaries, self-care, and guilt-free rest.
So you can start reclaiming your time, energy, and joy.

A community of eldest daughters who get it.
No need to over-explain—just come as you are.

The Long-Term Impact of Eldest Daughter Syndrome

Research shows that eldest daughters are disproportionately affected by stress, anxiety, and burnout. The pressure to meet high expectations can shape their careers, relationships, and self-worth long into adulthood. Without intervention, these patterns often lead to:

  • Chronic overwork and difficulty resting, even when exhausted.

  • A tendency to take on caregiving roles in friendships, romantic relationships, and workplaces—always giving, rarely receiving.

  • A fragile sense of self-worth, dependent on achievement and external validation.

  • Struggles with identity, especially for those navigating multiple cultural expectations.

But healing is possible. You can learn to put yourself first without guilt. You can let go of the need to be perfect. You can build a life that feels lighter.

About the Eldest Daughter Support Group

This is a closed, 6-week support group designed for eldest daughters from immigrant and racialized communities who are ready to unlearn patterns of over-responsibility, set healthier boundaries, and prioritize themselves—without guilt.

What You’ll Get:

  • Weekly in-person sessions held at Hamilton Therapy Collective on Saturdays at 11:00 am et.

  • A private, supportive community through Discord for continued connection, shared resources, and real-time encouragement between sessions.

  • Guided discussions and tools to help you release pressure, manage expectations, and reclaim space for yourself.

  • A structured yet flexible approach that blends deep conversation, practical coping strategies, and cultural insights.

This is not just a drop-in group—it’s an intentional, supportive space where you’ll grow alongside others who share your experience.

Investment: $50 per session ($300 total for the full program)